Tong Quoc Ky was born in 1994, graduated from Foreign Trade University at Ho Chi Minh City. During my student days, Ky was a typical dynamic student model of Foreign Trade and Saigon: active club activities, many jobs, and … lost early.
“In the second year, I am in a career crisis, I am a crisis. Before that, I worked as a Marketing Manager for 2 big corporations. Even though I work in an international company, my boss is good” but I still see nothing “wrong,” I changed jobs every 6 months, “Ky smiled.
The chances of Ky’s coaching career also stem from that period.
“After not staying at the other two corporations, I don’t know what to do next. Because I did a lot of different things without feeling happy with those things, not really satisfied. At that time if anyone asked I don’t know what I want, “Ky recalls.
Wondering about the future, I look to coaching (often translated as questionnaires), at that time it was still very new in Vietnam. The coaching program that I participated in was a career coaching career – helping me find a career path. After being a coaching client, I see “coaching helps me very well, why don’t I use coaching with others?”
That thought made Ky from a coaching client into a coach – a customer supporter. Up to now, besides being a training specialist at a life skills center in Saigon, coaching has become a left-handed job of Ky and the coaching fee of 9x is now 500.000 / hour.
Ky said the problems customers need to support often involve career, personal development and conflict resolution in relationships (love, family …).
“Sometimes I also support my parents in matters with me,” Ky said.
But, how can coaching help others solve their own problems?
Tong Quoc Ky explained:
“People come to me in a bowl like a mess of noodles. I will take the noodles out, show them the problem more clearly, then after that, choose how to solve the problem yourself.”
To be able to “take out the noodles,” there are three important things a coach has to do, are: listen, respond, and ask questions.
According to Ky, listening is listening to the story of the struggling person with a sincere, non-judgmental attitude. Ask questions to make matters clearer – that problem is the most fundamental issue, and ultimately respond to the coachee (who needs support) to see what the problem is. “
“In fact, it is a process of rearranging information for them to make it easier to see, how they see the relationship between everything and from that, make it easier to make decisions. I mean debugging for them, but ultimately solving that problem is theirs, “Ky said.
The coaching will take place in one or more 1 – 1 talks between the coachee and the coach. “Before the appointment, the customer will email the coach about their problems and wishes. After that the coach will send them in advance to ask the customer to rearrange what they will discuss in the conversation. “Ky said.
There was a friend who came to me while I was studying 12, wanted to have better study and examination results. At that time you are very pressured with the expectations of the relatives around. She stayed up all night to study, and did a lot of things, “Ky recalled a recent customer.
“She always tries to make others see you as an excellent person. Until you are exhausted, stuck with everything because she doesn’t get any new results. People are skeptical of you. That is, he doubts himself. “
She came to find me, and after I looked back, I asked her a question: “Are you believing and loving me?” Then she didn’t say anything, just started crying, “Ky said.
Ky confided:
“I am happy that my customers are heard. Because in this life the human need to listen is very much. It is mainly connected with superficial social networks or superficial statements, then such 1 – 1 and deep conversations are very rare. “
Ky said that after that the student realized what he needed, less worried and is now waiting for the happy entrance exam results: “Everything is so much better, she knows her What you want to do, no longer have to worry about whether you can achieve this or that. ”
“When you see your customers being listened to, you are good, you are relieved of your emotions, and then they are a better person, no more struggling and knowing your direction, I really feel see my work doing meaning, “Ky added.
Another joy of Ky in coaching career is to be better myself.
Ky said: “There is a criterion for the coach that firstly I have to be good to help others.” Therefore, coaching workers often train themselves every day with good habits (such as meditation, exercise, journaling, fasting …)
But of course, people sometimes encounter life events that make them unable to manage themselves.
“In order to be a good coach, I also need a coach to help me when I am energetic, unable to solve my problems on my own,” Ky said.
9x share the last time you need coaching:
“It’s time to break up with my girlfriend, a very important decision in my life. That time lasts 1 month, and in that month I can’t touch anyone. I refuse all coaching sessions. Because I myself do not understand why I understand the person facing me. “
In addition, meeting many people and seeing other people’s problems also helps the coaches better themselves every day.
Ky said:
“Actually coaching is a very interesting journey. Customers are like mirrors to help me look back at my life. The more people I meet, the better I will be.”
According to the International Coach Federation (ICF), Coaching is one of the fastest growing professions in the world, and is still new in our country.
In order to become a coach, you can participate in coaching programs that currently have a lot in Vietnam. The level of coaching fees, in addition to depending on the support needs, changes according to the “level” of the coach, ie coaching experience and international certificates of coaches.